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i felt like this is so egregious that i couldnt just leave it on the movie thread:

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(published in 2008 - it's almost like someone making this game had a premonition) - this is the most maddening trivial pursuit question ever
 
I really don't get it.
You see. I meet a girl. I'm judgemental as all hell and not a fan of hookup culture. At this point I just want a partner, and I mean it in every sense of the world. I don't want a fuckbuddy, in fact sex isn't my main priority(shocking for a kid my age. I'm going through a long dry spell but I am okay). She's everything I could ever want and need in a potential partner. Beautiful, smart, funny, has a DARK DARK DARK sense of humor like I do, is great with sarcasm, but is also sweet, compassionate, generous, but courageous. Is willing to talk problems out with people. She's a Patriots fan, so she isn't perfect. But I really don't care about that. She is getting a job working as a columnist for a newspaper back in Boston after she graduates and fuck me.. She's great....... AND I FUCKING LEAVE NEXT MONTH AND SHE'S GRADUATING UPON MY RETURN.

Oh she reciporicates. We were hanging out and I told her I was going abroad. She left suddenly and was crushed. And damnit this shit always happens to me. I meet someone I actually like. One of two things happens.

1. She's taken. Which is fine. I'm not one of those "well if I can't be happy, no one can" assholes. I'm also not one of those "just because there is a goalie doesn't mean you can't score" dickheads. I've been cheated one before.. It fucking sucks. I've been tricked into being the person who someone has cheated with. Equally shitty. At the end of the day, not only do I respect the presence of another partner, but I wish them the best. At the end of the day, if anything I'm just jelous that they're fucking happy. Which I'm fucking not. I'm drunk on a Tuesday night damnit.. Just fuck.

2. For some circumstantial reason, she is leaving. Whether she is graduating, or moving elsewhere because transferring, or going abroad, or dropping out of school.. She leaves.. Not because of me. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's a sign from god or whatever that "it just wasn't meant to be"...


Can I just get a fucking "W"?? Is that too much to ask. I just want someone I can actually care about, and who feels the same. And I can't find it. Most of my other friends are happy and in established relationships of some kind. Why can't I be the same way? What did I do wrong? What is wrong with me? Fuck.

I'm done searching.. Fuck it. There's no fucking point. Someone, somewhere, there is an awesome girl. I'm just gonna stop looking. Let it happen. I just hope it's soon.

......
Rant over. Going to pass the fuck out
 
Man, I didn't marry till I was 37.
I dated enough, but I guarantee, none, NONE of them even come close to taking care of me and making me happy like my wife.

The crazy thing is, we all have this check list.
These" must haves " if you will. I have dated many women that check most or all of the boxes. Never worked out. My wife checks very few boxes and goin on 12 years together 11 married, I could not be happier or more content.
 
Lost_In_Translation said:
Can I just get a fucking "W"?? Is that too much to ask. I just want someone I can actually care about, and who feels the same. And I can't find it. Most of my other friends are happy and in established relationships of some kind. Why can't I be the same way? What did I do wrong? What is wrong with me? Fuck.
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dont worry about it dude in terms of your friends - some of them will work out but i imagine most of them will fail in dramatic/sad ways - we had a get together of all my old flatmates at my new (now old) house and i remember walking into the room and having a brief pause and then realising - oh shit everyone's paired up - 2 months later 3 of those relationships no longer exist

and dont define yourself by who you are 'with' - it's nice to have someone but you dont need them to be a complete person

but then again this is advice from someone with intimacy issues so maybe take what im saying with a pinch of salt
 
Lost_In_Translation said:
One of two things happens.

1. She's taken. Which is fine. I'm not one of those "well if I can't be happy, no one can" assholes. I'm also not one of those "just because there is a goalie doesn't mean you can't score" dickheads. I've been cheated one before.. It fucking sucks. I've been tricked into being the person who someone has cheated with. Equally shitty. At the end of the day, not only do I respect the presence of another partner, but I wish them the best. At the end of the day, if anything I'm just jelous that they're fucking happy. Which I'm fucking not. I'm drunk on a Tuesday night damnit.. Just fuck.


Can I just get a fucking "W"?? Is that too much to ask. I just want someone I can actually care about, and who feels the same. And I can't find it. Most of my other friends are happy and in established relationships of some kind. Why can't I be the same way? What did I do wrong? What is wrong with me? Fuck.

I'm done searching.. Fuck it. There's no fucking point. Someone, somewhere, there is an awesome girl. I'm just gonna stop looking. Let it happen. I just hope it's soon.

......
Rant over. Going to pass the fuck out
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Amen to the bolded points.
 
K-Dog said:
Man, I didn't marry till I was 37.
I dated enough, but I guarantee, none, NONE of them even come close to taking care of me and making me happy like my wife.

The crazy thing is, we all have this check list.
These" must haves " if you will. I have dated many women that check most or all of the boxes. Never worked out. My wife checks very few boxes and goin on 12 years together 11 married, I could not be happier or more content.
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It’s just I find someone who finally can take care of me.... and I’m leaving the country and she’s graduating. My luck is akin to a person on a prepetual losing streak in Vegas.

rossihunter2 said:
dont worry about it dude in terms of your friends - some of them will work out but i imagine most of them will fail in dramatic/sad ways - we had a get together of all my old flatmates at my new (now old) house and i remember walking into the room and having a brief pause and then realising - oh shit everyone's paired up - 2 months later 3 of those relationships no longer exist

and dont define yourself by who you are 'with' - it's nice to have someone but you dont need them to be a complete person

but then again this is advice from someone with intimacy issues so maybe take what im saying with a pinch of salt
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My best friend is 25 and has been married since before he joined the corps. All my other sorrority girl friends have one. My hockey buddies have them. They’re all happy? Why can’t I be? Sure, they’ll likely end terribly(sans the marriage).

Yes I know. Don’t define who you’re with. I just want someone. I’m self sufficient. I have my own money not from my parents(and a lot of it). I just want someone. A long term possibly permenant partner. The first girl I meet that I have a great rapport with and we have each other’s qualities to a T.... and we are both leaving under certain circumstances.
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Amen to the bolded points.
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I legit have 3 friends who are in sororities. They’re amazing people and awesome friends. 0 taste in men whatsoever. I have 0 interest in them, but my god they deserve someone better.

But fuck it. I quit. I fucking quit. There’s no point in trying anymore. Better get a high paying job because I’m probably going to be alone for the rest of my fucking life. Kill me now plz. I beg of you
 
Lost_In_Translation said:
I legit have 3 friends who are in sororities. They’re amazing people and awesome friends. 0 taste in men whatsoever. I have 0 interest in them, but my god they deserve someone better.
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oh i can empathise with this 100% - the last couple of months we've been dealing with a close friend who's stuck in an emotionally abusive relationship with a scary guy and it's hard to work out how to deal with it - especially as she's aware that he's abusive (and hates herself more for it because her mum had an abusive relationship while she was growing up) but still gets back with him...

so i empathise with that sense of helplessness
 
Lost_In_Translation said:
I legit have 3 friends who are in sororities. They’re amazing people and awesome friends. 0 taste in men whatsoever. I have 0 interest in them, but my god they deserve someone better.

But fuck it. I quit. I fucking quit. There’s no point in trying anymore. Better get a high paying job because I’m probably going to be alone for the rest of my fucking life. Kill me now plz. I beg of you
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So are you saying you're joining the MGTOW movement?
 
I’m just going to say this and never say it again.

You talk shit about me? Fine. I’m okay with it. Go ahead. Difference between me now and me 5 years ago is I don’t care what other people think anymore. I get told on the regular to kill myself. It’s not gonna happen.

But talk shit about my friends or family and personally mess with them? That’s the quickest way to ensure that you’re on the receiving end on a verbal beatdown from me at best, and a full on ass kicking at worse. I do not care about myself. You can mess with me all day long. I won’t get provoked because I hate myself way too much that I probably agree with your criticisms of me. I have no social skills, I’m an alcoholic workaholic who can’t maintain a relationship to save his life, and I’m a handful for my friends and family due to an addictive personality and sheer stupidity flashed on my end. You can’t hurt my feelings, because you’re right about me. I don’t get offended by the truth.

But if I find out that you assaulted, harassed, messed with, screwed over one of the few people in my (very small) friend group or complicated family. I will personally punch you a one way ticket to hell and serve as the conductor on that train. I will dedicate my life to making yours miserable.

Those people put up with my shit for seemingly no reason whatsoever. They’re good people who don’t deserve your crap. They have enough problems in their lives without you. They put up with me (for some reason) and I’m a handful. I’m surprised I haven’t burned bridges with them yet like I do with everyone else. They’re kind, smart, decent and (unless they royally screw me over) I will have their backs until the end of my days.

Again, fuck with me all you want. I don’t care what you do to me. But fuck with the people who I care about? You’re going down asshole.
 
Let’s play my favorite game.
“How much therapy am I going to need after this week”


Answer: all the therapy. All of it
 
I find people who grow up without hardship or struggle are easy to pick out and almost completely useless as adults. But on the other side there are two types, there are people like me whos hard formative years are a blessing and a strength then there are those who take their struggles and anxieties and neurosis into adult life and are their own worst enemies. You cant help or save everyone nor should you, tell them what they need to hear then let the chips fall where they may.
 
BloodRaven said:
I find people who grow up without hardship or struggle are easy to pick out and almost completely useless as adults. But on the other side there are two types, there are people like me whos hard formative years are a blessing and a strength then there are those who take their struggles and anxieties and neurosis into adult life and are their own worst enemies. You cant help or save everyone nor should you, tell them what they need to hear then let the chips fall where they may.
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You mean those spoiled fucks who have everything handed to them on a silver platter who have never worked a day in their lives and/or everybody liked them from day one and have never had to deal with any semblance of social adversity so on and so forth.

I'm pretty open about my struggles with depression and shit but I do have to admit that because of some of the stupid things I have done because of it I've fundamentally changed as a person over the past few years or so...... I've made so many goddamn mistakes over my life.. Most of them had valuable lessons. I guess that's why at least off the forum I tend to be a more level headed person. I've gotten into a ton of trouble for previously having a temperamental issue and an superiority complex.

But I grew up around idiots who have had their entire lives handed to them and have never gone through anything truly negative in their lives. They're useless and the sad thing is they can be because their families have money that they'll inherit, and money may not buy hapiness but it can get gold diggers.

Listen, I'm well aware of the fact that I am better off as a 19 year old than 99% of the world. But I am getting 0 inheritance when my parents kick the bucket.. My brothers are getting all of it. Why? Because I don't want anything. I have significant amount of respect and admiration for how hard my parents work and shit. My dad works 20 hours a day and lives across the country in a different state than his immediate family. I have a tremendous opportunity with a college education I don't have to pay a cent for. I'm gonna take it.

I agree with you though despite me being spoiled. I struggle hardcore with depression and stopped taking my meds years ago(they just make things worse). But there are things that I have been through(witnessing a family member die, getting serverely bullied physically as a kid, being significantly overweight for a large part of my childhood, almost getting sued this past summer) that have fundamentally changed me as a person for the better.

One of my favorite sayings is that "adversity doesn't build character, it reveals it.". I may hate myself.. But I'm not exactly a total pushover emotionally like I used to be. I've built a chip on my shoulder, always wanting to prove myself wrong.
 
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