Agreed. Empathy is a long lost value in America. People love to see the maximum punishment handed out for poor decisions, like it’s entertainment.
But no innocent bystanders were hurt. A young man who lacked maturity and guidance, and clearly had his demons to face, lost his life and a possibly bright future, but “what if” seems to be the default response by many.
When things like these happen and the court of public opinion starts throwing their 2 cents in about how someone deserves their horrible fate for poor decisions, I just remind them that you may have kids one day and I hope like hell that you don’t have to be humbled, because no matter how morally correct you think you are it could happen to anyone. I’ve been surrounded by drugs and alcohol abuse and undiagnosed mental illness since I was born, I’ve seen a lot of people that were once carefree children raised in a decent household lose their lives to drugs and alcohol, it literally can happen to ANYONE. I just hope this world doesn’t humble those who pass judgement this callously.
In general, I agree with this. The "well he could have killed this or that" game has no real merit, because its purely hypothetical. The Earth doesn't rotate on hypotheticals. There's reality, and there's everything else.
None of us are angels. I've done drugs, I've driven after drinking too much. I'm not somebody who openly criticizes these people for bad decisions frequently (as people can tell by the fact that I'm usually against the media throwing the hammer at any and all people who don't act the way they want them to).
BUT... I will point out that there are bystanders who are "hurt" by this. Maybe not physically, but certainly emotionally. He's got a wife and children. They're scarred for life.
Most importantly, somebody actually did kill him. There was a driver of a vehicle who ran over another human being and killed him. Not his fault per-say, but that's not just something anybody just "gets over". That driver will live the rest of his life knowing he ran over another person. That can't be undone or unseen.
Is he better off than Haskins? Of course, because he's still alive. Practically anything is better off than being dead. But there's virtually no such thing as victimless crimes or innocent crimes. They impact somebody somewhere at various degrees.
But I generally agree. He's not the worst person to ever walk the Earth. He doesn't deserve to be criticized until the end of the world. He fucked up, and it cost him his life. The reason its important to share that publicly is for others to see the impact and perhaps learn something from it. If even one person decides to Uber tonight because of this news, that's something positive.
And no, I also don't believe that just because a person's dead we should just ignore all of the bad things they did and treat them like they were great. Respect and disrespect doesn't end when you're dead in my eyes.